Climbing up from the valley...

I haven’t written any updates lately because, and yes I realize how ridiculous this sounds, I haven’t wanted to (you guessed it) “jinx” it. When will I learn to just trust God and understand that I can’t “jinx” anything? Another reason I didn’t write about some of my big improvements is because the diseases I have are different than most in the fact that you can go from really good to extremely bad very quickly. I guess I felt like people might not understand if I wrote about feeling better then had to turn around the next week and explain that I felt bad again. I struggled with this entry more than any other I think. However, after talking with God I realized I have had so many wonderful people praying for me and they needed to know how many prayers were being answered. I also realized that the people who have continued to read this would understand if I had to come back and explain that things had gotten bad again. God made me see that if I didn’t write about my progress then He wouldn’t get the full glory He so rightly deserves and none of you would get to feel that amazing feeling that comes when you see, or read, about prayers being answered. So, to God be the glory for what He’s done for me.

In my last entry I wrote about doing laundry and accomplishing a few other tasks that made me see how much better I was getting to be able to do any of that. However, I also wrote about how frustrated I got when I realized that I wanted to do MORE and I couldn’t because my body has been in bed for almost 2 years straight. I also wrote about how hard treatment itself is on the body. I wanted to get up and do more but in all honesty, I couldn’t because I don’t have the muscles to do things anymore. My calf muscles feel, and look, like they aren’t even there. I understood that my body couldn’t do more because of what all I’ve been through.

I prayed and just talked to God about how I would get some strength back. After thinking about what all I’ve been through I realized I basically need physical rehabilitation. So guess what…I started my own rehab! I actually got on our elliptical machine downstairs and went for 3 minutes one day. Of course, I didn’t have any incline or resistance turned on but still – I was in motion for 3 minutes! Then I started to slowly increase. My husband would laugh at that last sentence because my version of slowly increasing was to go from 3 minutes to 7 minutes then to 15 minutes. I am so OCD about how I work out on that machine. I mean, the screen tells you how long you’re on, how many rotations you’ve done, how fast you’re going, how many carbs you’re burning – who wouldn’t start staring at numbers and pushing harder and making goals instead of just doing 3-5 minutes every day – haha! I have to keep my pulse oxymeter on to make sure my heart rate doesn’t go too high but that’s really the only number that will stop me! I’ve said before that we won’t know the extent of my cardiac damage for probably a year or so after treatment. My heart still has to work hard just for me to stand up since my blood pressure bottoms out when I stand up. If I stand up and stay in one position I will pass out the only question is how quickly it will happen. SO, I am watching my heart while I start this rehab process. My heart rate when I’m sitting is usually in the high 60s to low 70s but when I stand up it’s around 120. I don’t want to push it too hard so I make sure that it doesn’t go above 140 when I’m on the elliptical machine.

I am still having to deal with some emotional herxes from the IV medication. I find myself frustrated easily so I know I need to keep bringing all of this to God. Some days it’s hard though. It’s as if my mind wants to be mad at God for all I’ve had to go through, but my heart knows that He’s bringing me through all of this. He is the reason I’m getting anywhere. I have to stop thinking, “Why did I have to get so sick? Why did I have to miss out on the past 5 years of my life basically?” and I have to start praising God for all He’s doing and what I know He will continue to do for me. I am such an impatient person and I am so ready to be healthy and “get on with my life” that I have a hard time thanking God for each and every improvement. But I’m trying to praise Him more and question Him less! I think most people probably have a hard time with that! There are so many questions we have about the bad things that happen in this world that we often overlook the multitude of wonderful things God does for us on a daily basis!

I’m going to be honest and explain that just 2 months ago things were extremely bad with my health. There were a few nights that I worried I just wouldn’t wake up in the morning. I had such horrible pain and was on oxygen almost all the time. I was too weak to walk the 5 steps to my bathroom and would have to support my weight on furniture or walls to get there. It was one of the darkest times of my life. I told my husband that over the past 5 years I’ve gotten used to continuing to fall lower and lower. It seemed like I was going downhill and each time I would think I hit the bottom, well, I would fall even lower. So, for a long while I think I had fallen off the mountaintop and had found the deepest part of the valley. I walked with God there for a long time, or rather God carried me through that valley for a long time. I have always believed that you learn more from your time in the valley than you do from time on the mountaintop. When you’re on the mountaintop you don’t feel that deep need to lean on God for every single thing. But, when you’re in the valley God is the only thing you have to cling to and your dependence on Him grows daily. I would not be the person I am today if not for my times in the valley. As much as I hate to look back at all the times in my life when I was unable to do things because I was sick, well, from my current perspective I realize those were the times that God was working on me the most. His greatest work in me has come in the past 3 to 5 years as I have struggled so much but learned to lean on Him so much more.

Now, here I am with good news. Here I am walking around my house, taking showers, doing laundry, getting on the elliptical machine – can you believe how fast God has started to bring me out of the valley? But I must admit I had another thought about getting out of the valley. Falling down from the mountaintop did not take work – it just happened. However, climbing out of the valley is another story. God will be the one who gets me out of the valley but I must be active in my own rescue – I must push myself to take the next step. I must force myself to remember what it was like to have a “real life” where I could function somewhat normally. Falling down happens to you but getting up is something that requires effort. Of course I am not alone in this effort! God is with me as I climb up the side of the mountain just as much as He was when I was falling in the valley. The difference to me will be how much more I appreciate the view from the mountaintop after spending so much time in the valley.

I have another story before ending this long entry. While I was in Kansas City I had the pleasure of meeting another patient there named Sarah Young. She and her husband have been missionaries for over 20 years. I must say she radiates God’s love – it just shines right through her. And as much as I hate that we had to meet under such horrible circumstances with both of us going through IV treatment, getting to know her was a blessing. If you’re wondering why I’m using her full name it’s because she’s also an author who has written a wonderful daily devotional book called, “Jesus Calling”. She gave me the audio CD version last August after I had gone through the emergency surgery where I lost my right ovary. I was too sick to be able to read but she knew that listening to it might help me. She had been sick for a long time too and this book came out of her personal writings in her prayer journals. As years went by she started focusing more on listening to God and writing down what she thought He was trying to share with her rather than just writing down her own words. She’ll tell you that her writings are not inspired as Scripture is, but they helped her grow closer to God. I started to listen to this book again lately as I went through my morning IV treatments. As I’ve seen improvements in my body each day, the book started to take on a new meaning to me as I listen to it this time versus when I listened to it at this time last year. I didn’t realize that lately I started asking God not only, “Why me? Why do I have to go through this?” but also, “When is this going to end? Will there ever be a day when I can say I’m healthy?” So, one morning as I listened, I heard the devotional for that exact day and it hit me hard. I wanted to share it with you:

“Grow strong in your weakness. Some of My children I’ve gifted with abundant strength and stamina. Others, like you, have received the humble gift of frailty. Your fragility is not a punishment, nor does it indicate a lack of faith. On the contrary, weak ones like you must live by faith, depending on Me to get you through the day. I am developing your ability to trust Me, to lean on Me, rather than on your understanding. Your natural preference is to plan out your day, knowing what will happen when. My preference is for you to depend on Me continually, trusting Me to guide you and strengthen you as needed. This is how you grow strong in your weakness.”

She wrote that after reflecting on the following verses:

“Now listen, you who say ‘Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.’ Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, ‘If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.’” James 4:13-15 (NIV)

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” Proverbs 3:5 (NIV)

“Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:28-31 (NIV)

I used Isaiah 40:31 in my August 21st entry after being able to go without the wheelchair to my doctor’s office. I use that verse a lot. It’s one I cling to and love to read. I now have the hard copy of Sarah’s book as well and lately I either read or listen to the CDs most every day. I read it knowing that she wrote it during the time in her life when she was sick and could not find help. I read it knowing that as a missionary of 20+ years, she was hit by the same diseases that I had been hit with. I read it knowing that we will never know the answer to “Why me God?” and that our belief in God and our works here on earth do not keep us from experiencing bad things. However, our belief in God does help us get through those bad things and sometimes those bad things inspire us to do great works here on earth that can help others. Finally, I write this as I struggle to climb out of the valley and I know I must continue to lean on God as I begin my ascent. Thank you dear Lord for blessing me with so many improvements in my life!

(Side note: To those who know me personally and who want to comment on one of my entries please do not use my full name. I have left this blog open to the public so that anyone could read it whether they know me or not and that is why I use “K” when I write or “M” when I talk about my husband. I have pictures on here and I think that’s as much as I feel safe sharing. I’m sure you all understand and I truly love when I get comments! Also, if your comments have been deleted it is because my name was used so please don’t take offense.)

Much love-

K